Our definition of love changes as we age. And the older we get, the more we realize how difficult it is to encapsulate its meaning into words. Because the truth is: love looks different depending on who’s looking – and this is the reason why we have to understand that no one spectacles fit all. We have to go beyond our preconceived notions and stereotypes of love being limited only to certain genders, colors, ages, cultures, and ideologies.
Despite the numerous campaigns and humanitarian initiatives that advocate the freedom to love, up until now, the stigma towards unconventional relationships and fear of coming out remains. Homophobia, transphobia, violence, and harassment still exist and continue to paralyze the fundamental rights of every individual to love and be loved.
It’s about time that we free ourselves from the reins that hold us back from loving other people. It’s about time that we acknowledge that love is more than just a feeling: it’s a choice, an action, a universal movement that liberates us from the willful demands and unjust limitations of society. It’s about time that we choose to #loveaboveall.
Maybe we should stop asking what love is and start focusing on what love can. By changing the way we attack the question, we also see a better picture of love – a diversified version that embraces differences and celebrates individuality. In the face of adversities, love fuels us to keep going, to stand with our preferences, to be more accepting towards unique relationships, to cancel out double standards, and to make sure that everyone is given equal opportunities to understand and express what they feel – without fear, without doubt, and without judgment.
Will love ever win? Nothing is certain at this time. But surely, it’s worth fighting for. We’ve come a long way to make sure that everyone feels accepted, protected, and supported – and we still have a long way to go. In these difficult moments of overwhelming hatred and prejudice, love reminds us to widen our horizons, grow beautifully into people of substance and understanding, and take pride in who we truly are.
Nicky Dissanayake (@nicky.dissa)
Titus Low (@tituslow)
Clarence Tay (@clarencetayyy)
Marcus Lim (@markymarqy_)
Aidan Zecha (@aidanzecha)